Priorities, manscaping schedules, sleep cycles – the coronavirus has impacted everything, one lockdown at a time. “You know who is really going to suffer during social distancing? Guys on dating apps. Welcome to court, Brad. Welcome back to talk to a girl for weeks before we meet…” was a tweet at the start of the pandemic, a clear indicator that swiping and talking was going to see some serious changes, especially since “I’m just looking to plugging in’ would seem laughable, and also very irresponsible.
And the change did. We’ve seen people move in together to see if they had a connection. Phone and video calls, which used to be a screening process, have now become the norm – virtual date nights, Netflix Parties, people have been doing everything to keep life as normal as possible. In fact, having to interact before meeting someone meant slipping less (unless you could make 20 video calls a day, in which case, good luck). As Instagram exploded with ‘living in the moment and realizing what’s important’ gyan, the last two years have led to a change in the nature of what constitutes a deal breaker. What we could give up before now counted as a red flag, as we realized that life was too short.
Eliminating bullshit was a process that was sped up, tolerance slowed down and a greater awareness of what one values in life impacted everyone breaking the deal is not respecting time , safely colliding with selfishness. Shivani recounts how she stopped letting people take her time for granted, while Avantika corroborates, adding that dating, even casually, is a two-way street, and if it’s unbalanced, it’s not worth it not worth it. Since we no longer had sex under the guise of “Netflix and chill,” being able to really spend virtual time together meant having similar interests — it reflects how well your tastes match someone, Tanu explains. Not being able to share common interests, and, well, you can’t really date someone who won’t be Ms. Marvel with you at all, can you?
Common interests also bring another one on the block: not being able to traits’ – even your dog can’t help you if you’re boring. We end this eye-opening story of “I can’t deal” with politics. Our associate editor, Samreen, swipes left on all apolitics on Bumble. The pandemic has seen major mismanagement by different people in power and in states, and that, in turn, closes the loop and redirects back to our front row, which is lack of empathy, as the points out Priya (name changed). A liberal mindset is non-negotiable—your political leanings say a lot about the “big stuff”: Are you misogynistic, do you think about women’s rights, and do you understand privilege? These questions have always been important, but a near-death experience like COVID has shaken the best of us to see people and things for what they are. As things return to normal, it’s interesting to watch how many of these deal breakers continue to count.
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